The Difficult Subject of Divorce

It’s Valentine’s this week, which always makes me think of 1) celebrating with my wonderful daughter 2) celebrating with my loving husband, and 3) consumerism (can’t help it, greeting card companies!).

V Day also turns my thoughts towards those who are perhaps not having a very festive time of year. Those who have experienced a recent loss or are going through a difficult time in their lives, such as a divorce. Those for who the constant inundations of the Christmas-New Year’s-Valentine’s holiday trifecta are not such a happy reminder.

This past weekend I attended The Total Mom Show in Toronto, and one particular vendor stood out to me—a family lawyer and divorce coach (Leanne Townsend).

I wouldn’t say that people were flocking to Leanne’s booth compared with, say, the chocolate samples, but it was very refreshing to see this presence at a show that was, fundamentally, geared towards the mindful, meaningful mom.

According to the latest Stats Canada data, approximately 38 per cent of all Canadian marriages will end in divorce.

While the divorce rate has declined since its peak in the 80s, 38 per cent is not an insignificant number. Yet divorce and marriage issues are typically subjects that people don’t discuss with their support networks unless they’re going through it.

By no means am I an expert in this subject, but I understand that marriage is work—my husband and I have been working on our partnership for almost 15 years. But what I do know from friends and loved ones who have gone through this in their lives—whether as adults or children—is that divorce is supremely difficult. It can be incredibly sad, and devastating to families.

Leanne Townsend’s tagline is “The Best is Yet to Come.” This simple, powerful message is what inspired me to write this post: to say to those of you who are going through a difficult time this Valentine’s Day, “we’re thinking of you, mama. We see your struggle.”

The best is yet to come.

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