Do you ever have one of those days where you are ready to throw you hands in the air and say I’m done?
Being a mom is hard. It’s the hardest job I have ever done. And you can’t explain it to people until they are in the situation – we can tell all our friends who don’t have kids how hard it is but they don’t really get it until they have their kids (and then they say why didn’t you warn me and I said I tried!)
There are some days where you know from the very start that it is going to be one of those days – maybe your child woke up earlier than usual, or they had an accident during the night or wake up sick. You know from the start that it isn’t going to be a great day and you look at the clock and wonder if it’s too early to add Bailey’s to your coffee (and it’s never too early for Baileys and coffee!)
Other days it may seem like the day is going well and then bam, your child hits their wall of tolerance and they are done. And it doesn’t matter where you are or what you are doing and most often then not it happens when you’re in public (because why would it happen when you’re at home by yourself, of course it’s best to have an audience!)
And then there’s the other moments – you just wash the floor and your child comes in with sticky fingers and food and suddenly the floor is dirty; you fold the laundry and leave the room for a second and come back and they have emptied out the basket of folded laundry to use the basket to play with. They decide to empty every toy bin looking for one particular toy (which is often not even in the boxes!). All these lovely motherhood moments!
In these moments you can feel totally overwhelmed. You can feel like a failure.
Take a moment. Take a breathe.
There’s no such thing as a perfect mother or a perfect child. They all have their moments. We all have those days where we feel like a rockstar, where the day went great. But then the next day can be one of those days where we feel like our life is a complete disaster and nothing is going right. And it’s unpredictable, we don’t know what type of day we are going to have at the start of the day (or else on those disaster days I’m sure many of us would stay home in bed!)
Before becoming a mom I had all these visions of what motherhood would look like – and it’s not like that at all. It’s messier. It’s dirtier. It’s not as organized. It’s unpredictable.
But then I look at my girls and I wouldn’t change anything. Yes, they can fight with each other, refuse to eat supper, have a meltdown at the store. But then there are those moments that make it all worth it. The “I Love You Mommy”, looking back in the vehicle and seeing them holding hands in their car seats, the snuggles, their laugh. So many amazing moments that you get to experience.
Motherhood is not easy but we need to take it one day at a time. Stop focusing on yesterday and tomorrow. Focus on today and what you can do.
Remember that you are a great mom. You may have bad moments but you’re not a bad mom and you don’t have bad kids.
And remember to ask for help, you’re not in this alone.