Elyse Lalonde has always called Saskatoon home. She started on the motherhood journey in the Summer of 2015 when she had her son. Elyse is a working mom, always seeking a fine balance in life with a busy toddler. As a MommyConnections “alumnus,” she enjoys socializing with moms and babies her son’s age. Elyse has always enjoyed writing and journaling, and hopes to share her experiences (good, bad, and sarcastic) with the online parenting community in Saskatoon.
I’m a mom. A wife. A working woman. A Friend. A Board member. Writer. I’m a million other things in between, and sometimes it feels like time just passes right before my eyes.
All day long, week in and week out, it’s about focusing on family, work, friends, colleagues, errands, chores and all the little things that fill in the cracks of time. I love being all the things I am, and to be in service of others. The problem is finding the right balance, and the worry is burning out. I feel like I get maybe an hour per day to myself, to spend just with myself. To wind down with a shower, or a 20-minute bath, to sit and read some “insightful,” online articles (ahem, Facebook). Even an hour these days seems rare– never mind the quality couple time that often gets neglected during the week… Before you know it, it’s morning and the daily cycle begins again.
I was discovering that I needed more R&R than I had been giving myself lately. But more than R&R, I needed to do me. I needed to remind myself who I was beneath the day-to-day craziness.
Because this had all been at the forefront of my mind, I decided to take action and switch things up a bit. I orchestrated a “snap shot” of my life. Me, in my 30s, looking and feeling my best. One day with hair and makeup done up, and a photography session—just for me. Not a family shoot, but a session dedicated to just me. Selfish much?
Take the last 50 photos captured on my phone. 99% of them are photos of my son. 1% of them are memes. (I love memes!) Not only do I feel like I am missing from my own life, I feel like if I don’t have a physical reminder of my self now, my future self is not going to remember this period of time, and I’m going to have big regrets (especially because life right now is pretty sweet).
In my 20s I got married, my husband and I had purchased 2 homes, and we had our son. There were many photos taken of us in this phase of our life. Now, we are each into our careers and our son is growing quickly—our time, if not at work, is spent on and with him. I don’t want this to be the decade where we are forgotten or missing from our own lives.
It’s like when you go on a trip, and experience all these new, beautiful things — you don’t want to forget to document them! You grab the moment with a camera, share them with others, and treasure them later on.
I credit both my parents for taking videos and photos of my brother and I as kids. Birthdays, vacations, piano recitals, school ceremonies– these moments are precious, and that’s why I try hard to capture similar moments for my son. But we can’t forget about the people behind the camera. They need recognition and need to be seen, too.
I had photos taken of me on a beautiful day in May at the U of S bowl. They took a fair bit of prep time and organizing, and the moment was quickly over and done. Even though they were “staged”, this was the snapshot I needed. The snapshot that shows me that I’m me, and I can be at my best even after a long week of work, after a long week of errands, chores, running around playing hide & seek with my kid. Underneath the yoga sweats and ponytail, there’s still me. A mom, a professional, a wife. Me in my 30s.
Sometimes, all we need is just to capture a good moment, a token to remind ourselves to stop, recognize and appreciate the person we are at a given point in time. So find this moment for yourself, however it looks to you; a momento, a gesture to take and enjoy. It’s all yours!