Hi, I’m Becca. I’m a mom to a beautiful and wonderfully silly toddler named Bridget who is 2. I stay at home with her, but I’m also growing a business and have recently started my own blog. When I’m not busy figuring out how to balance mom life and taking on the world, I love to bake, watch Netflix till 1am, have game nights and read. I survive on caffeine and sarcasm and try to live a life full of gratitude. You can follow my exploits on Instagram @brighteyeshappyheart or visit my blog brighteyeshappyheartcom.wordpress.com
So I’m pretty sure there is 1 thing that all parents can agree on, kids are expensive! Diapers, formula, the clothes and shoes they seem to grow out of as soon as you buy them. It all adds up, and adds onto all the other bills you already have just to keep the roof over your head and food on the table. So for most families, that means that both parents are working. Even if one of them works from home, they are still doing what they can to bring in some extra cash.
Let’s just pause there for a second. To all you moms and dads out there working long hours at the office all day, or tucking yourself away in a quiet little corner of the house after the kids have gone to bed to try and get some work done when all you want to do is flop on the couch and relax, you guys rock! You are doing what you have to for your family even when it’s tough. If that isn’t the epitome of parenting, I don’t know what is.
I’m a stay at home mom, but I’m also building a business. That means a lot of work put into a very short amount of time everyday. Trying to make calls during the day while my toddler naps (if she naps), sneaking away to my office as soon as my husband is home to squeeze in whatever work I can before dinner, staying up late to connect with clients or finish paperwork. It’s tiring! Add in trying to make sure you nourish the growing mind of a toddler so she doesn’t just watch TV all day and defusing the latest tantrum that started because she has peanut butter on her fingers after eating toast….. it can be a little overwhelming sometimes. Am I incredibly grateful that I get to spend everyday with my daughter? You bet! Do I wish that I still worked out of the house so I can get a break or have even 5 minutes to myself? Sometimes!
And there are some parents out there who are able to stay home with their children full time and don’t work anymore, and that’s great too. We all know that it’s a full time job chasing kids around all day! Especially when you feel you are missing out on having adult time and the Paw Patrol theme is the soundtrack of your life now. No matter which way you cut it, it’s tough to be a parent, working or not. There are definitely benefits to both working in the house and away from it, but there are also sacrifices that have to be made.
So if I hear one more person say how easy it must be to be a stay at home or work from home mom, or how selfish it is to put your kids in daycare so you can go back to work, I might lose it. And I’ve got pent up frustration from trying to reason with a 2 year old daily, that wouldn’t be a pretty sight! (Toddler parents know what I’m talking about)
We as parents are all just trying to figure out what works best for ourselves and our families, and that won’t be the same one person to the next. Why don’t we cut each other a break instead of thinking one way is better than the other and just support the fact that we are all doing the best we can.