Hi, I’m Mandi, a South African wife and mama living in Canada. We moved to Saskatoon in January 2018, and I’m a stay-at-home Mama to my two littles, Summer Hope & Hudson. I’m the Founder of ASK MUM | Saskatoon and I enjoy writing in my spare time. You can find me on Instagram @followthebergs where I post and blog about travel, parenting and real life.
Is it just me who often wonders if the chaos and mess of motherhood ever ends? I don’t think it’s just me.
I have had many cringe-worthy moments as a Mum. I used to be that person (pre-kids) that would wonder why on earth a Mom couldn’t reign her own child in at a grocery store… and now I am that Mum. And trust me I try to reign my little sassy mind-of-her-own little girl in. I’ve tried it all and then some. One of the things I have learnt in this crazy ride of motherhood is that every child is so different. They have their own personality, likes and dislikes, fears, dreams, strengths and weaknesses. They are human. And Mama, you are human too.
It’s okay to feel not okay. It’s okay to feel like you don’t have it all together all the time. We have to show up for our kids every single day and sometimes that’s difficult. With such a focus on #BellLetsTalk this past week, it was amazing to see so many Moms be real and open up about their struggles. I have also struggled with postpartum anxiety after my second child was born and I know how real depression and anxiety is. We need to support each other as Mums and find a way to make motherhood real again – and not a curated content fantasy world like it has become at times.
I am a very positive person so I have been trying to find the line between being too negative about how hard parenting can be, but still making sure I am being real and not fake and playing pretend. I LOVE my kids, I love my life and I am blessed. I do not want my sometimes (*often*) complaining real motherhood moments to be my only life song. I have a new philosophy!…
Rather than being fake or being too negative, I have chosen to find beauty in these moments of chaos, the moments of LOUD, the moments of “Mommy, Mommy, Mommy”… Admitting that it is chaotic and a challenge is real, looking at my journey as a beautiful chaos is what I’ve been missing all along. It doesn’t always work and I am the furtherest thing from patient, but one of my goals for 2019 is to find the beauty in the simple things, to embrace daily life and to be present in the chaos. I want to remember. I want to remember it all. The sometimes hours it takes to prepare to leave the house with kids, the tantrums, the hard life lessons, the crying, the messy house, the snot, the everything! Because in it all, there is this beautiful chaos that we find in every moment. Taking time to leave the house means we are off on our next adventure; tantrums, hard life lessons and crying means we are raising, teaching and guiding our children to be kind and to cope in this world; messy houses means you’ve spent hours playing, building puzzles and just being with your children.
Always remember on those chaotic days, there is beauty in what you are doing. Raising little world-changers is what us Mamas do best 🙂 Let’s live out our beautiful chaos and end this pretend-pretend of motherhood.