Balancing Intention and Control – Mommy Blogger

Hi! My name is Tess. I’m the mom of one (soon to be two!). Since returning to work from my 12
month maternity leave I have been trying to find the balance in my life.
Balancing work, social, parenting, being a wife and home responsibilities while maintaining a
sense of individuality and self has proved to be challenging.
I love to write and talk to others about how they find balance in their lives. I’d love to connect
with you – you can contact me or read my latest thoughts on my blog at .

I am not a fly by the seat of my pants type person. I like to plan. I like to have a plan. I like to live on somewhat of a schedule. Being a stay at home mom for almost the whole of the past 18 months and for the next 12 months with certainty causes my life to be less planned on a day to day basis. However, my family still tries to maintain a sense of schedule and order. I like to think that I have something of a long-term plan for our lives as well.

I live my life intentionally. I feel it is important to do this to get anywhere or accomplish anything. I recognize that there are many people that don’t share this mindset – and they still manage to live successful and accomplished lives. Living intentionally, to me, means having goals and maintaining track of them, having a reason for doing everything that you do.

In the world of motherhood, living with intention takes another level. Intentionally parenting. For me, this means researching parenting methods – I love audiobooks. I like listening to or reading different people’s opinions, research and methods and then taking what I find makes sense and leaving the rest. I wouldn’t say that I follow any specific parenting style, but I take what makes sense to me from different things I have researched and I use that information to back up my parenting decisions.

Living with intention is important to me and to my mental health. Having a schedule allows me time for self care, to have adequate sleep (for myself and my little one), and keeps my mind calm and organized. However, perhaps a piece of living with intention is intentionally living without an agenda for periods of time. Taking a break, relaxing, having a holiday. I have a very hard time doing this with little ones. Especially over the summer it seems so easy to let the schedule go awry, snacking becomes constant and meals are less structured… bedtimes get out of whack and any type of daily or weekly schedule is constantly kiboshed by a beach day, camping trip or late night BBQ party. It is so important for me to be able to let go of my intention and control for a period of time to allow myself and my family to enjoy these affairs.

I look forward to the structure and consistency of autumn life.

It is not an easy feat to maintain a life of intention while not being a crazy control freak – sometimes it feels like a very fine line. Ah! I am working on it. I would love to hear how you manage, your tips and tricks and how you find balance as a mother. Check me out at or shoot me an email at I would love to connect!

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