My name is Erin. I’m a toddler mom and a pup mom. I had my son in May of 2016. Becoming a mom was the scariest thing I’ve ever done, and I have loved every moment of it. I am a stay at home writing mom. I write everyday after my son goes to bed. My partner occasionally works away from home. When he’s home, we spend as much family time together as possible, and when he’s gone, I practice my Solo Mom Life. Life isn’t always easy, but I try to be as grateful as I can. My son helps with that. You can find my blog at thewritingmomma.ca or follow me on Instagram and Facebook at thewritingmommalife
This title is my work in progress. This is not going to be a post telling you how not to stress because I’m still working on it. I’m good at stressing – holiday season or not.
Every year, I go into the holidays thinking I won’t get stressed. I make plans. I make crafts and goodies because Christmas can get expensive, and I like to give out homemade things. I want to bring my son to every holiday activity there is so he can enjoy everything about Christmas. I also want to do special toddler Christmas crafts with him. I’m collecting donations of gifts for local shelters. I still have gifts to buy. I send out too many Christmas Cards every year. I put a lot on my plate. More than I sometimes need to.
I always promise I’ll do things quickly and efficiently, and not overwhelm myself. Some years this works. Other years, like this year, I am not doing as well as I’d like. I know how important self care is, and I know how important it is to keep myself healthy and happy, especially as a mom. It makes my son’s experience better if I’m better. However, even though I know I need to not stress – I still do.
I’ve got the decorations up, a few Christmas presents wrapped, and my baking done. Christmas cards are probably a quarter of the way through.
Now it seems like I’ve only got time for the holiday stuff. The housework is taking a little more time than usual. (And to be honest, I’ve never had a tidy home.)
I am constantly impressed with those Instagram mothers that show all the things they have done for their kids and for themselves. I love seeing all the posts of their perfect Christmas trees and all their Christmas excursions. I love finding ideas, and getting inspiration from them. At the same time, I’m jealous. (This isn’t normal for me because I know that you never see everything that happens before or after the posts.) I’m a stay at home mom, and I still can’t find the time or money to do it all. I want to, but I can’t. I enjoy seeing the posts, but I also like seeing the ones where people are honest about things their imperfect life. My stories are full of toddler tantrums, exhaustion, and a side of Christmas fun because even though I’m stressed, I still love all of the holiday fun. When I’m done with this post, I’ll be sharing a photo of a baking fail on my stories.
How am I not going to be stressed this Christmas? I will admit that I can’t do it all. I need to cut some things out. I won’t be hard on myself for not getting it all perfect because the truth is, I’ve never been perfect. Perfectly imperfect has been a wonderful theme in my life, and it will continue.
I want my son to remember everything about the holidays, but I don’t need to take him to every single event, and I will never get him every single present he asks for. This year, and all the other years, we are working on him learning about the giving part of Christmas. Another thing on our list is going through his toys to see what he wants to donate. It’s going to have to happen soon because I want him to know how important it is.
As always, I am also taking time for myself. Baths, reading, and writing are just as much a priority as making sure all the gifts are perfectly wrapped. (They will never be perfectly wrapped.) Self care is hard to make time for, but I do it anyway. The cards can wait.
In the end, I know that we will be happy if things aren’t all done. No matter how things turn out, I will be grateful for what I have, and my family will be happy.
How do you stay calm this season?