Nicole Betker is a mother, wife, rabid Toronto Blue Jays fan and a pop culture junkie. Always having an opinion or something to say, it’s time this journalism grad found a place to share her musings on the acts of “adulting”.
I have a very special bond with my son. A bond I never thought possible. I’ve read that a mother-son relationship differs, especially at the pre-school age, but I never realized how special it would or could be.
Now that our family of three is just five weeks away from becoming a family of four, I wonder my relationship with my son will change. Will he still tell everyone he meets that “Mommy is his favourite?”
When I was younger, I always wanted multiple children. As an only child, I longed for nothing more than siblings. Marrying into my husband’s family confirmed that for me when I heard the stories from my husband’s childhood and see the close bond they share now as adults. But it took some time to truly make the decision to expand our family. We were very happy as a three.
I know this change will be a big one for our family dynamic and be an adjustment for each of us. It won’t be easy. I just want to be sure that each of my children knows that they are special and our bond will continue, despite whatever time I need to spend with the other.
I’m hoping together, as four, we can continue to seek out life adventures, be there for one another and continue to have fun daily. Our baseball trips around North America become for four, family movie night adds another spot, morning cuddling and watching cartoons just adds another bowl of cereal, and we continue to embrace and foster each other’s differences and special qualities.
For now, I will enjoy the last few weeks as three and look forward to the adventure that awaits us as four.